|Going Through A Break Up|
When a couple decides to go their separate ways and bring their relationship to an end, it is not uncommon to get mixed feelings: sad, angry, guilty, frustrated, relieved. To cope with a break up can always be difficult and often it takes some time for a person to accept that the relationship has ended. In order to go through this difficult time, the following might be helpful.
Cry it out
For some people crying helps. Have your good long cries especially during the first 48 hours which would be the toughest time.
Pack your ex’s belongings away.
Photos, letters, gifts, clothes, toys – any of your ex’s belongings that will remind you of him should be packed and stacked away in some place that you cannot easily find such as the back of your closet or your garage. Later, you might find these things as fond memories. But while you are healing, don't dwell on them as they might make your recovering period harder and longer.
Keep yourself busy
Keep yourself occupied with things you enjoy doing. Try to take your mind off the break up by being active and participate in different activities. Hang out with friends. Read a book. Watch a movie. Get yourself to do something.
Talk to others
Having others listen to you and getting support from them can be helpful. Talk to the ones that you trust, such as a friend, a co-worker, a family member or someone that you can count on. Spilling out your problems and feelings help to take your stress away and make you feel “lighter”.
Write it down
When your feelings are unbearable, you can try to express them by writing them down, such as in a journal.
Remember: it takes TWO to start a relationship and it also takes TWO to call it an end. A break up is never one-sided. Think of the achievements you have made in your life. Think of your family and friends. Think of the good things others have said about you.
When it first happens, you might feel that you are stuck in one place and are getting nowhere. But always remember that every ending is a new beginning. Eventually you will get out of your grieving process and grow stronger and feel better.
The above is composed based on my personal experience and what I have gone through. Every situation is different and you may handle your break up differently.
by Katey Willis
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