|Parting Is Such Sweet Sorrow – The Art of Breaking Up|
Like take-offs and landings. This is a common metaphor in describing the process of a relationship. It is indeed part of the life cycle to experience loss. Life dictates that nothing is permanent. Not even love and relationships. At some point, they are destined to a conclusion. Therefore it is only wise to learn the art of breaking up and letting go.
Man by nature is a fallible, social creature. It is but natural to seek and form relationships with others. And it is equally natural to commit mistakes that would lead to the end of relationships. Human as we are, we can never attain perfection and will always commit blunders. Oftentimes, these errors are beyond saving or redemption. And when one reaches this inevitable state, the only wise decision left is to end such relationship before it devours the both of you.
It is not a crime or a moral wrong to end a relationship. Sometimes, it is even the right thing to do. When the relationship is on the verge of breaking up and the only way to recoup from an intolerable situation is to get out or let go while there’s still something decent to say to and about each other, then there’s only one thing to do – go your separate ways and move on.
If one feels that the relationship is not healthy anymore and is only doing more damage than good, then consider breaking up. Just remember, though, when you do decide to split with your partner, always come clean. Tell them the real reason why you don’t want to go on with the relationship anymore. Your partner deserves that much. Do not deprive them of the truth. Tell it like it is and don’t even think of coating it, on the guise of protecting the other from hurt; which can be easily misunderstood as leading them on. That is selfish. And what’s more, this step will only lead to more complications.
Don’t fall into the trap of endlessly hoping that your breakup will not end in sorrow, hurt and disappointment. Don’t kid yourself. Every breakup will hurt, at least for one party in a genuine relationship; it naturally will. One must accept that part of the consequences of breaking up is getting hurt, or hurting another. But still, there are ways by which you can make the news bearable to your partner.
Although the do’s and don’ts when breaking up always vary on a case to case basis, there are nonetheless general guidelines, which is applicable to everyone and if followed, can make things bearable for either or both of the parties.
Take note of your partner’s strength and weaknesses. Approach them in a gentle manner and without a trace of harshness, no matter what had transpired. Show courtesy when doing the act. Explain well and truthfully your purpose. Be direct but do not be rude. Show your partner that after the breakup, the world will not end. Instill in their mind that there are new horizons after the relationship. But try not sound like couldn’t wait to be free.
In the end, the decision and the acts are done through the wise discretion of the parties involved. They are in the best position to gauge whether there’s any point in going on. Therefore, they are the only two who know what best to do.
In a nutshell, the art of breaking up is perfected when there is a perfect balance between the sorrow of goodbye, and the sweetness of of looking into new horizons. In the words of William Shakespeare: “Parting is such sweet sorrow”.
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